Dan Harmon, writer, creator of the television show Community and overall creative keeps a blog where he was accepting questions from strangers looking for advice or guidance. A few weeks ago he posted this question and answer that resonated with me. I thought it would be nice to share as it obviously ties into our industry and is relevant to the theme of gratitude this week. Both life and moving are hard stuff and we all need a little perspective retrospective.
I’ve paraphrased the question and answer. I apologize for the language.
Q: I feel like I’m using people. How do I love people without taking from them?
A: What a question. If only more people asked it, every day. If only I had spent more of my life asking it.
I think I slip from the right kind of “giving” to the wrong kind without noticing because they’re identical in terms of behavior. One minute you’re carrying a box because you want to help your friend, the next minute, you’re carrying the same box to be a good person and a few steps later, after not getting some thank you you decided you deserved, you’re carrying a box because your asshole friend is a selfish piece of shit and you can’t wait to move out of your house just to make him lift a piano and you hope it crushes him to death. In one conversation’s time, you can end up eighty miles from the nearest patch of honesty, still insisting that you’re where you are because you’re a hero. And you could pass a polygraph test while saying it, because you’re not exactly lying, you’re just… lost.
And I think your question, which is also my question, is its own answer. We can stop sucking other people’s necks and start giving more than we take if we ask ourselves how we can do it and make sure we don’t block the real, honest answer. Sometimes working hard is the hardest thing we can do, and sometimes it’s just our really easy way of trying to take stuff from everyone around us. Sometimes the hard thing is the easy thing.
I think what is difficult is life moves so fast. All. Of. The. Time. It’s really difficult to maintain perspective. What would you do if you got a free coffee and the barista messed up your order? Let’s stop making these tiny slights into enormous flaws with our lives. You’ll be much more satisfied when you do, I guarantee it.
In honor of Thanksgiving, let us reflect on the abundance we have to be grateful for.
Hey, you’re still alive aren’t you?
We are like, really funny. Our office is a fun place to be. The laughter throughout the days keeps us subjectively sane.
I love Thanksgiving. I love the extravagance of taking an entire day to be with people I love I may not get to see very often. Sitting around the table laughing with my family and friends is a luxury that helps me with perspective. As Kurt Vonnegut wrote, “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’” Take that moment on Thanksgiving and every day. Plus, turkey is delicious. We’re big trypto-fans (you see what I did?!) here. Roast, fry, smoke, bring us the turkey!
Some other lovey stuff.
I mean, assess your own life, bozo. I mean that in the best, most loving way. You happy about your boyfriend or favorite restaurant? Maybe your favorite hiking trail? Good food, good drink, good company. Life is what you make of it. So go make something of it. Stop letting it pass you by.
Not least of all, we’re grateful for you. Thanks for showing up online every day and purchasing our product and supporting our brand. We truly stand behind our products and are proud to present them to you. Thanks for reading this, you. And thanks for letting us bring the best free shipping moving boxes and moving blankets all with free shipping every day. Aww, let’s hug.
Now that we got that out of our system, who is making an advent calendar out of left-over moving boxes this year? Think how amazing that could be! Oh, I hope a puppy is in one of those boxes!
Thanks, friends. Back to your turkey plans.